Blog 2: Dessalicious

At exactly 9:45pm on the 29th day of August 1993 when a little girl began to live in the world of living. Her mom then, named her princess as Christine Dessa Palic, a person before you, ladies and gentlemen.

          Helpless and innocent, born without the presence of a father right by my side ,even just to show love and comfort. That very time, I long for a kiss, a touch on my toes and hands, a warm arm of a father to cuddle me up in my early days of living. This emptiness of a father exists as the result of my mom and my dad's separation. After their 6 months of marriage, my mom accused my dad in the case of bigamy after he married his ugly mistress. My dad stayed in jail for almost a year. That then, I never saw him again until the time that I reached my 15 years, where our paths were crossed. And during those times, I admit that I hated him much because of what he did. However, life changes. After their 13 years of long separation, my family becomes one again. My father learned his lessons and settled back to my mom.

I grew up as a girl of nobody, cheerful, loving, and responsible and a hardworking. A kind of person in which I considered as most loved and liked by everyone in my family. I act different than those of my cousins because  I follow my principles in life. I strive hard to achieve success and I always put myself down to the ground in every achievement I received because I know that I owe this to God.

          Now, I already reached my college years, and presently a sophomore student in this university. Though lots of troubles and bullying I received from my classmates, I always lengthen up my patience to them and simply pray for their goods and realization of their mistakes. I never made anything bad against them but still they continue to make fun of me, underestimate me, disrespect me and overstep my rights as a person. However, no matter what kind of things & destructive words they throw against me, I never ever surrender to stand on my beliefs and ambitions in life. I always keep myself strong and tough despite of those challenges for I believe that someday, the stars I dreamed soon becomes at hand, through finishing my studies and good career.

Furthermore, I also love to paint and act. It is really my passion to draw a scenario into my mind and apply them through hands and actions. I consider strictness in my work as a way of disciplining myself. I became very sensitive and affectionate especially on family matters because it reminds me of my past. But this changes me when it comes to look life. Life for me makes a similarity like a journey of hope, there are ups and downs in  your path, yet, keeps on believing.

         For now, I never mind all my aches & troubles in life for I know that God gave me this kind of situation to mold me as a better person. Maybe this life story of mine teaches me not to follow the footsteps of my parents in driving life. And soon enough, shapes up my future to become an independent woman and good wife to family someday.

Blog 1: Gender Diffrences in Communication

     Gender affects every aspects of our lives, from how we feel about ourselves and set our goals in educational, recreational and work opportunities as well as the the nature and extent of our participation in social and civic life. It has a strong impact on the way how we practice our religion to the way we dress, the way we express our communications, feelings and the nature of all of our relationships with others. 
     As a woman, I always observed our ways in communicating with men. We tend to be more relationship oriented and accomplish tasks by building relationships first.We know who to ask and are in comfortable asking others to get things done.We often process and look at options out loud, also, we often think that man is being unresponsive to suggestions . We tend to  lead by consensus and always make sure that there is more equality. Furthermore, our non-verbal behavior also tells our personality & differences in communicating with men.Nodding our heads shows that we are listening to someone talking.And whenever we speak to a man, and if he does not say anything & stays in neutral body language to show that he is listening,we will then interpret that as a man being bored or not understanding what we are saying. We actually use more direct eye contact in conversation to create relationship connection & approach a man from the front.
     On the other hand,men tend to be more task oriented and go straight to the task. They build their relationships when they are in task or project.Men often think that women are looking for approval when they process out loud or don't know what they are doing.Some of them also think that a woman's way of processing is a sign of weakness.They tend to be more hierarchical and include only the people closest to them at their level in the decision making process when they think it necessary.They often leave the conversation thinking that a head nod means agreement and will be surprised to find out that the woman didn't agree at all.As the woman talks to them uncomfortable and keep on repeating what she is saying, the man interprets that as an insecurity.In addition to this, men always approach from the side at an angle, which is how each of them tends to stand or sit when talking to others.Men interpret the face to face as too personal, or aggressive while women will interpret the talking side to side as though he is not being upfront or even hiding something from her.Men also take up more time & space at meetings. They are fund of interrupting and talk over them much more that women interrupt men.
     Therefore, gender differences can be a volatile topics.We, as males and females should have to observe acceptance,understanding and limits & controls in our every actions and words for sometimes , it gives a wrong interpretation to others.And this can lead to the type of miscommunication based on assumptions of why member of the other sex are using certain verbal & non-verbal behaviors. This miscommunications can result in team breakdown , people not listening and loss of good ideas.